I do not apologize for anything. It is a given that you will be treated the way you are treated. If that means that you are not seen, then you will do just that. You will do nothing to change it. Do not feel guilty about what you are going through.
The reason I do not feel guilty is because I don’t feel guilty about the fact that I do not feel guilty. If I feel guilty, I know that it is because I feel guilty and I do not feel guilt.
If you aren’t doing anything to change a behavior, then you should feel guilty. “You did something wrong. I’m sorry.” “Please forget about it.” “I have another apology to offer, but I think that we just have to put it behind us.
We are dealing with a very sad experience here. This is an issue I have been working with this author on for a long time. It is a very complicated issue and it’s not easy to talk about. If you are looking for a non-judgmental, easy to understand, and realistic approach to talking about this, I encourage you to read The Gift of Sympathy.
Your personal experience with this kind of type of thing is a shame. It is hard to be able to live with your emotions before they get into your head and you start to cry.
For a lot of reasons, I understand the desire to apologize. But it is important to remember that the other person is the one who made you feel bad in the first place. It is also important to acknowledge that the person who has apologized doesn’t owe you an apology. They owe you a genuine apology that doesn’t only consist of “I’m sorry”. It can also be more personal, including, “I’m sorry I hurt you”.
That sounds pretty basic, but it’s a common misconception that an apology is a form of repayment. This is not true. When you apologize for something, you are essentially saying “I didn’t mean to.” You are not saying that you are sorry for something that was not intentional. No, you are apologizing for something that was intentional and you are apologizing for that.
There are two components to an apology. The first is, you are acknowledging the wrong you have done. If you have hurt someone then you have a responsibility to do something about it. The second is what you are doing to correct the wrong. The goal is for you to say, “I am sorry for hurting you.” If your apology is specific, then you are actually apologizing for a specific action done.
The second component is what you are doing to make things right. This is what we call, making amends. If there is something that you have done, made sure that there is a specific action that you are going to do. In the case of your ex, you need to make sure there isn’t a specific action that you are going to do, you need to make sure there is something specific that you are going to do.
The main thing that we are doing is trying to be a little more aggressive to do things that are appropriate for your ex. You can’t actually do that. You have to act to make amends. You can’t go out of your way to make amends. You have to make amends. You have to do that. It doesn’t matter if they’re a family, a friend, a job, whatever.