I’ve had many relationships with therapists over the years. I’ve had many other relationships with a therapist, but I’ve never received a formal evaluation from one.
Ive always found it helpful to have a person I could talk to about what I was feeling, so I did that for years when I was trying to figure out what to talk about with a therapist. Most therapists are well-meaning, but most people are generally not well-intentioned, and as I learned to trust my own instincts and not what they told me, the therapist became the best friend I had.
So I’m always amazed that therapists are still out there in the first place. I think a lot of people who become therapists only do it because they feel that they have to. There are lots and lots of people who become a therapist because they think they need help, and lots of people who become a therapist because they think they need to help them avoid painful thoughts and feelings.
I guess the thing I keep coming back to is that it’s not about what you think you need to heal or avoid, because you are not in therapy. It’s about what you think you need to heal from, and you find that you must heal yourself first.
We all have a lot of things we think we need to heal and avoid, but we actually often feel more like we have to heal from those things instead of avoiding them. And we need to heal ourselves from all of these things before we can heal others, so it isn’t just about what you think you’re trying to heal or avoid.
The therapist can help you with a lot of things. They can help you to not be so hard on yourself. They can help you to let go of all of the things you have been doing to avoid healing and being healthier. They can help you to stop doing things you think might heal you, but actually they actually kill you. They can help you to take care of yourself first, to heal yourself, and to heal others.
Therapy is one of those things that we can’t avoid. It is hard enough to learn about ourselves and move on to dealing with the rest of our lives. I know I’ve been working through many issues with anxiety, depression, and self-worth since I was 18. But I keep finding myself going back to therapy for these same issues.
Many people feel that therapy is for the mentally ill or that it is “therapy” for people who don’t know what to do. That is not the case. Therapy is a very practical, helpful, and even life-giving approach to dealing with mental illness. And yes, you need it, but you don’t need to go to therapy to get it.
I know how much you hate to ask people to call you into your home, but do you really want to be able to say no to therapy? I have a feeling that if you don’t ask me to call you once or twice, I’ll never get it right.
I know what you’re thinking. “but we just met, remember?” Well, yes, but then again, I’m not talking about you with that attitude. I’m talking about a therapist who has you in her office, telling you things on paper that you might not understand. It’s important to remember that you’re the one who’s asking for therapy. Therapy is not just for those who have mental illness or who are in a tough spot.